Being Alone

Being alone is something that most people fear. Probably as much as death. I can't say that I never ever felt the same way. I did. For the longest time I would find myself engaging in relationships because I was taught to. I was taught that loneliness is a sign of failure. Especially as a woman. That, if I don't find a partner by the time I'm 25, then I've failed. But again, when I hear from friends that they wished they'd of waited instead of settling---maybe things would feel different within them. The grass is always greener on the other side, isn't it?

But the more alone time I began to spend with myself, the more I actually began to appreciate myself. In my humble opinion----there is nothing wrong with being alone or choosing to be alone. Just as long as you still take part in society's certain needs from you every now and then. But the one thing I've learned more than anything else about choosing to be alone is that, I didn't realize how independent I was until I broke hearts. They'd cry...or I'd cry...but in the end, I grew stronger, choosing people wisely with whom I engaged with. I can comfortably say I have 5 close friends I interact with on a regular basis. I know many people and acquaintances, but I only keep a few friends close. It's a VIP club and should be treated as such. I guess that's why I never understood the friending part of facebook. I know adults that get their panties in a twist when someone unfriend's them. It doesn't always mean what it looks like. It could be anything. I've learned, and learned early on in life that taking anything said over social media is to be done with a grain of salt. There are much better ways to waste hard earned energy. I once walked by an old high school friend who had unfriended me from Facebook. When we crossed paths, we spoke about life, and how each of us was doing. I learned that she was married with two kids, working as a teacher. She still treated me with respect, saying hi and goodbye just as any other respecting Human Being does. It made me appreciate the Human connection, face to face, a lot more because that is real. People seem too attached to their phones, computers, etc. for the wrong reasons. It's time to disconnect from the Internet for the right reasons, and meet people face to face. As an introvert telling you this----even miracles can happen. :)

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